Molested by a friend

There was this decent looking guy in the hostel. He was studying medicine. We'd chat occasionally. One day, he mentioned working out in the gym. I had no idea how to use the equipment and he offered to teach me.

That night, I happily went to the gym for my first lesson. It was weird. He'd show me how to use the equipment. When I tried, he'd press his groin against me. I was shocked. Turned and looked at him and saw an expressionless face. Maybe I was imagining things... after all, he looked like the decent sort and no decent person would take advantage of a friend.

After a few such accidents, I really felt uncomfortable and cut short the 'lesson'. I quickly left alone, thinking that my mind was playing tricks on me.

A few months later, while I was chatting with a close girl friend, she mentioned that medical student. She said he was weird. He offered to teach her to use the equipment in the gym and kept brushing himself against her. Really weird. I told him the same thing happened to me. We felt like total fools. Those were never accidents. He was deliberately taking advantage of us. And we were so naive!

It never occurred to us that we should report him. Instead, we warned the younger girls about him, hoping that no one else would be taken advantage of by him

By now, he would be a doctor who would have practiced for a few years. I hope he does not prey on his trusting female patients.

On hindsight, we should have trusted our gut instincts and just walked away. Looks can be deceiving. We girls should watch out for ourselves and for each other.

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